There are a lot of opinions about respect, compassion, kindness, empathy. For adults. But, what is bizarre to me, is some of the people giving advice about this…. do not show this, within their own homes, to their children.
I believe children should be treated with the same behaviours and attitudes, adults expect and demand.
This includes hitting people. Hit an adult and that is classed as assault, or domestic violence.
Hit a child, and this is twisted into ‘discipline’. How hypocritical. And shallow. *sigh.
I’ve always known this. I was doubting myself for a while., when an abusive, toxic church were inflicting their mind control about discipline needing to involve hitting, belting children. And inflicting pain on babies. Their evil attitudes, even extending to ‘disciplining’ babies, through pain and fear. Their abusive and toxic attitudes, were displayed in many others ways, and this simply clarified how toxic the church is.
But, my own conscience, empathy, capacity for understanding what is right and wrong, soon knew, they were twisting Bible verses, to suit their abusive mindsets.
How can anyone really say it is okay to hit a child, but not an adult?
It’s worse to hit a vulnerable child. It affects their growing brain and psyche. They have no capacity to stop the person hitting them. The person hitting them – their parent – is teaching them physical pain equals love. Which is wrong. And further abuse. It is an act of violence.
It is 100% possible to discipline children, without hitting them. I know, because I am successfully raising my boys, without hitting them. And they are normal, well behaved, respectful children, doing well in school.
And my children have the capacity for empathy……. because they are modelled and shown empathy and respect.
It takes more effort and more self control, but my children are worth it. I love them enough, to put in the extra effort needed. Continue reading