Parents need to start taking more ownership of their children’s mental health…
Parents are always quick to say…
‘It wasn’t ‘my’ parenting that caused my child’s mental health disorder/personality disorder, my other child is fine and I brought them up the same’.
Well maybe the parenting style needed to be different for each child – because all children are different.
Parents need to realise that they need to gear their parenting to each child – not assume their parenting they want to have – can be the same for each child.
Children are all different and have different needs.
Spanking may not affect every child – but it can badly affect some and lead to a mental health disorder or personality disorder – because it was too abusive for ‘that individual child’ to handle emotionally and mentally whilst their brain and emotional psyche is developing.
Spoiling a child can not be a problem for some – but for some children – it can result in Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or high level narcissistic traits.
Yet, many parents do not want to acknowledge this, which is their own ego and fear of self reflection.
It is a very strong ego and a complete lack of empathy that says ‘my parenting is going to be this way and it will be that way for each child, regardless of their own individual needs’.
Parenting can have a huge affect on a child’s growing brain – and the way it develops.
Parents need to realise this more.
I do and I am very aware of my children’s emotional needs and gearing my parenting to them as individuals. I am not a perfect parent at all – but I do value my children’s individual needs and parent to them accordingly.